- Be honest
- Be angry (yes, it’s ok to be angry in the workplace or anywhere else)
- Be real (as in true to yourself)
- Have an opinion (This was one of Russell Buckley’s key pieces of advice to me when we first started working together back in 2000.)
- Make trouble (apparently we’re rather good at it, according to Eve).
- Believe in what you do – yes, women do have to work harder but believe in your work and what you bring to it.
- Pay attention to detail and to knowledge. You will have to be better at this than your male colleagues and this will give you an edge.
- Don’t miss out on the networking. Seriously, don’t miss out on the networking. It’s important. Eve would go home after work and put her children to bed (broadcaster Claudia Winkleman and son Oliver Lloyd] and then go back out and hang out with colleagues in her team. The drinking with colleagues thing was really important for bonding and team-building. She also shared some tips about how you don’t have to keep up with the drinking… take your drink into the loo with you and tip it down the sink; take a big bag with you and put your drink in your bag to chuck away later (ok, your bag might be a bit wet and sticky, but better that than a hellish hangover or getting yourself into state). (My personal tip here, don’t feel you have to drink alcohol. Give yourself some rules to stick by such as every other drink being a soft drink or not drinking after a certain time. People don’t really question them. Also, buy the round then you can buy yourself a soft drink and nobody knows.)
- Don’t use the S-word. What’s the S-word, I hear you ask? It’s the word ‘sorry’. Apologies don’t figure in a man’s world. They figure too much in a woman’s world. Learn from the men and don’t use it. (For the men reading this, we’d like you to apologise now and then where it’s due.)
- Read the book 'Rich Dad Poor Dad, what the rich they tell their children about money’
- Be straightforward
- Be charming
- Be well read (so you can tell the multi-millionaires something they didn’t know. She suggested reading the Wall St Journal for this.)
- Be yourself.
- Be cool
- This is what I am doing and what I’m bringing to you.
- It’s not about you.
So there you have it. The notes really don’t cut it compared with being there in person but I hope you found them useful.
A big thank you to the Sound Women crew who put the event on. It lived up to its name of ‘Inspiration Festival’ and the speakers certainly inspired me. The stories I heard will stay with me for a long time to come.